What Makes a Kid a Bully?

Lately, I’ve been reading a lot of news about bullying. I thought this happens only in foreign countries. Unfortunately, it occurs in our country as well. Recently, I heard in the news about bullying incidents which took place in one of the schools in Metro Manila.

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I wonder why school personnel and even teachers can’t control things such this. To think, they are the ones who are with our kids almost every day. And now, they can’t even manage to control commotions such as bullying? How inconsiderate do you think is that?

And now, I just read an article about how an 11 year old boy turned bully to murder. This is so alerting already. Our government should act something about bullying especially to kids below 15y/o. But let me ask you. What do you think why some kids (bullies) bully other kids?

We all have our views and opinions. And today, I’m going to share to you what are my insights towards this topic.

What are the common reasons why kids become bullies?

For sure, all of us are asking it to ourselves. But have you figured it out already? There are plenty of factors to consider yet the main reason why these attitudes occur in a person (in general) is the lack of guidance of parents towards them especially when they (kids) we’re still young. Definitely, it is. Most of them came from broken families. Although not all, but most of them. While for others, it’s the lack of knowledge of parents on how to raise their kids.

Let’s stick to this tagalog idiom- “Kung ano ang puno siya rin ang bunga” (Whatever the tree, so is the fruit). What we used to have when we’re still young will reflect on how we act when we grew up. It will also reflect on how we’re going to raise our kids.

For sure, if you’re parents raised you according to what they know is right… it will result though. It will only be called right if the outcome of it had success but if not, then there’s probably something wrong with it.

No one’s born perfect as to what the saying says. All of us don’t know exactly how to raise a good and obedient child; yet, we know exactly what things are right and wrong. As a parent, guiding them is really important. Thus, being responsible enough not just to them and so to your family but as well to yourself is really essential too. Because everything we do reflects to what we’re going to come up with.

All of us will become a parent, sooner-later… all of us will do. But not all are meant to be a good role model towards their kids. Do you see those kids in streets begging for foods? Do you see those news reports about hold-up, car-napping, bullying and so much more? They are mostly products of broken families.

Either your child is a product of a broken family; you can still raise him to become a better person in the future. Just by letting him feel he’s accepted in the society he’s into, he won’t be a bully neither a victim of bullying. And as well, being there with them physically and emotionally is also one should not forget.

To parents out there… let’s all make a new beginning. Let us guide our kids and support them no matter what. Let’s all start to be a parent to them. 

Being a Parent

You would never know exactly what it feels to be a mom until you, yourself become a parent.

I admit. I am rebellious daughter to my parents especially to my mom. It was never easy in her part since my dad is away to work overseas in order to raise us financially. Raising us physically is not an easy task. Even from the beginning, she chooses to raise us alone instead of getting “yaya” to help her in taking care of us. Although, we had one before but then… that’s just for a meantime since mom works as a reseller of known plastic products brand before.

Being a parent alone in raising 5 kids physically is not a joke at all, much more when the time I became a rebellious daughter of her. I don’t understand why she’s so strict to us in terms of allowing us go to our friends’ place or even strolling out from home. It started there.

When I reach my Highschool days, it gets worse. Although, I became rebellious during that time I never fail to attend my class and give mom failing grades at all. It’s just that, I get influenced much with “barkada” (friends).  I always go home late and sometimes, drunk. My mom, of course, gets angry with me every time I always do things like that. The time I reach 3^rd year level, I got pregnant. I didn’t see mom cried but according to our helper (who happens to take care of our adopted brother), she did. I don’t know how it feels in her part until I gave birth.

Now, I don’t know how much pain I gave her and so to my dad. I don’t know how to repay the love and acceptance they gave to me after all those bad things I’ve done to both of them. The trust I break. The unconditional love I’ve wasted. The acceptance I keep on untying. I just don’t know how to repay them.

But as a parent, nothing else’s they asked for. Instead, they want me to become a responsible parent towards my kids despite of having no partner neither father for them. You see, it’s very painful in their part. I know, because I just can’t imagine if things I’ve done unto them will happen to me soon. That’s running through my brain now, since the time I gave birth to my youngest.

I may not have the power to restore the trust I’ve broken into pieces, but I know in their hearts they’ve forgiven me for I am their child. And as child, I should learn from my mistakes. And I promise this day, I’ll provide them the love they deserve. 

Book Review x Queen-a-Bella from Brainy Connections

Love reading books? If you’d asked me to… then, I would lie if I tell you I do. Although I’m a not a book geek as expected, I am happy to inform you that my son didn’t just inherit that way. He loves books as much as I don’t. For sure, you’d asked me if how I had known it. I received books courtesy of OMF Literature from winning in their facebook and twitter contest. Glad that the book they gave to me are for kids. There, my son was so happy seeing those books and he always (technically, not read it since he still 2 y/o though) scan it and see those pictures in it.

Meanwhile, I received an invitation to check out a book which is produced by Brainy Connections. Actually I don’t have any idea about their site but if you’re a parent (just like me), sure this site is perfect for you especially if you’re a new to parenting hood.

I received a book which has a title of Queen-a-Bella Finds a Best Friend- authored by Lisl Fair. This is something your kids would definitely love. It’s a simple story where even those not a fan of books would love to read. It’s more on images which made it very friendly to kids and kids-at-hearts as well. Aside from that, there are values one can learn out of reading this book.

The story talks about how one finds her best friend despite of their differences. Meet Queen-a-Bella, the fluffy rabbit in her favorite red tutu and follow her on her quest to find a best friend.

Want to get a copy? It’s out now at amazon, for the link visit them at http://www.amazon.com/dp/B009GK36B0/.

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Guide Your Kids Accordingly rather than Sorry

I just saw this post and it shocked me. I guess you do too. (Read the image below)

Things like this happen because of parents’ or let’s just say guardians’ carelessness towards their kids. When I read this news, what ran in my mind was to keep my attention to my kids whenever they play especially with my eldest one who is really harsh in terms of revenge thing.  He always makes our younger brother cry. That’s why every time they play, I always make sure that those things that may cause such the image above are far from them and can NEVER be reached by them.

Aside from that, I also make sure baby M is away from them whenever they play since I’m afraid that accidents such this will happen to us. I don’t know what to do if ever. But nevertheless, this incident will never happen if I’ll be careful in taking care of them at the same time my full attention is with them.

So to parents and guardians out there, please guide your children accordingly especially if they are at the stage of curiosity…  Perhaps, let’s do actions with them rather than sorry.

VitaPops, The New Fun Way of Enjoying Vitamin C

Giving vitamins especially vitamin C to our kids is really important especially nowadays since weather changes from time to time. With that, varieties of diseases are everywhere which possibly our kids can get. Thus, letting them take vitamins everyday will help them boost their immune system and so keep their selves from harmful sickness such as colds and coughs.

As a mom, I always make sure to keep my kids from getting sick… thence, I always manage to keep them healthy and safe all the time. One of the things I am afraid of is that they might admitted to hospital due to the cough and colds they have especially to my eldest, Kuya G, who happens to be so picky kiddo at the same time loves to play everywhere even at the dirtiest place ever in our apartment.

With that, giving him vitamins such as vitamin C, iron and multivitamins, I know that he’s far away from getting sick. Yet, sometimes you just can’t tell time… Even I give him those; there are times that he gets cough and colds often since he refuses to take vitamin C which is very important for him.

What is Vitamin C?

“Vitamin C or L-ascorbic acid, or simply ascorbate (the anion of ascorbic acid), is an essential nutrient for humans and certain other animal species. Vitamin C refers to a number of vitamers that have vitamin C activity in animals, including ascorbic acid and its salts, and some oxidized forms of the molecule like dehydroascorbic acid. Ascorbate and ascorbic acid are both naturally present in the body when either of these is introduced into cells, since the forms interconvert according to pH.”  Courtesy of http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vitamin_C

“Vitamin C is a water-soluble vitamin, meaning that your body doesn't store it. We have to get what we need from food, including citrus fruits, broccoli, and tomatoes. 

You need vitamin C for the growth and repair of tissues in all parts of your body. It helps the body make collagen, an important protein used to make skin, cartilage, tendons, ligaments, and blood vessels. Vitamin C is needed for healing wounds, and for repairing and maintaining bones and teeth. 

Vitamin C is an antioxidant, along with vitamin E, beta-carotene, and many other plant-based nutrients. Antioxidants block some of the damage caused by free radicals, substances that damage DNA. The build-up of free radicals over time may contribute to the aging process and the development of health conditions such as cancer, heart disease, and arthritis.” Source: http://www.umm.edu/altmed/articles/vitamin-c-000339.htm.

I am giving him Ceelin syrup ever since when he was a baby (I gave him drops before when he was 0-6 mos.). He’s okay with it until he turned 1 year old until now. I am having hard time for him to take vitamin C which had been my one of my problems in terms of his health. He often gets cough and colds because of refusing in taking it. I don’t know what alternative to give him until I discover that he’s getting my vitamin C in the fridge without letting me know. (Not to mention my vitamin C) I then found the solution of my problem. He’s taking vitamin C same as mine.

I am worried that it may not good for him but according to my sister it’s okay because vitamin C is not harmful to neither make problems with age too. But it would still be nicer if I could give him vitamin C that suits his age. There, I was given a chance to take a sample of the newest product of Unilab- VitaPops!

At first, I thought it was just a simple vitamin such as ceelin chewable but boy, I was wrong! It’s something different. Something that pops! Oh yeah, to give you a hint from the word itself that makes it unique.

VitaPops, the first and only pop rocks vitamin c.

I then let my son and my brother try it.. love it so much… 

tito troy with me

Kuya G with Momee

another pose of Tito Troy

They love it since it pops out on their tongue and the taste, it’s good and no wonder why it is not just mom approved but as well kids approved too!

Me of course

My son really loves it so much and now my worries all fade away! I can give this one to him instead of the vitamin c I take. No need for me to force him to take his vitamins especially when it comes to vitamin c because VitaPops is here! The New Fun Way of Enjoying Vitamin C.

Update: Aside from that, it can be consumed even with empty tummies. 

VitaPops comes in a sachet which contains 50 mg of Vitamin C (as Sodium Ascorbate, making it non-acidic and can be consumed even on an empty stomach). It also contains 1/5 the amount of sugar found in regular Vitamin C.

VitaPops costs P10/sachet and is available in all leading drugstores nationwide!

So, if you think you are having problem same as mine better grab one now and see for yourself!